Sometimes we feel like we just can’t figure out what the “right” thing to do is. There seems to be this overwhelming array of possibilities and considerations, and the complexity of it all is just too much.
When that happens, I have to completely remove myself from the situation, take a deep breath, and remember that no matter what, there is essentially only ever one right thing, and that is to love. Even though it’s not always what we feel like we want to do, it is always the correct path through any given scenario.
Figuring out just exactly how to love in a given set of circumstances can be challenging, though, so I like to do the math by process of elimination until the exact answer becomes obvious. I know, for example, that anything involving spitefulness, or vindictiveness, or self-interest is obviously not the loving thing to do, or the loving way to respond. I can also rule out anything attached to personal insecurities, or that would seek to avoid responsibility…I mean, there’s tons of stuff. Basically, anything bad isn’t love, and therefore isn’t the correct course of action. See how easy that is?
Easier said than done, I know. In practice I find that there is generally still much more of the old, selfish me left than I would like to admit, and it usually takes some time and focus to put that old junk to death, and to yield myself over to the truth again. It’s a process, though, and those do tend to take time.